This article is an exclusive extract from Pawnderings, where Hester shares a story about a particular Cockapoo who challenged her preconceived notions and taught her the power of a calm and steady presence.
Keep Calm and Follow Ralphie
When I first met Ralphie, the family’s fluffy Cockapoo, I was a bit sceptical. I’ve always been a big, classic dog person—give me a Rottie or a Lab any day.
From our very first car ride, he was calm and curious, watching the world with those big, expressive eyes.
One afternoon, we ventured to the local pub. While I savoured a crisp New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc, Ralphie conducted himself like a true gent, nibbling on his doggie deli treat—two tiny sausages and a scattering of rogue carrots. Sitting serenely at my feet, he seemed fully aware he was the pub’s best-dressed guest and the undisputed centre of attention.
Another memorable day was our trip to Cranbrook in Kent. As I wandered through the charming church cemetery, Ralphie behaved impeccably, waiting patiently to relieve himself until we reached the exit—a true act of restraint and decorum.
Sugar-rush Shenanigans
One of my most favourite Ralphie moments came during a meet-up with Dougal, an Irish Terrier with the energy of a toddler on a sugar high. Sara, Dougal’s owner, and I planned for a relaxing coffee on a sunny terrace. Dougal had other ideas.
From the moment we sat down, Dougal was a whirlwind—barking nonstop and dragging Sara around the terrace like a runaway shopping trolley with a mind of its own. Guests chuckled at the spectacle, though Sara and I were mostly focused on keeping our coffee cups upright.
Ralphie, meanwhile, was the embodiment of calm. He sat at my side, occasionally glancing at Dougal as if to say, “Whenever you’re ready, mate.” His serene composure was unshakeable. After about ten minutes, Dougal’s frantic energy began to wane, curiosity taking its place.
That’s when Ralphie made his move. With a gentle wag, he invited Dougal into his world—on his terms. After a polite sniff, the pair began to play, giving us just enough peace to sip our coffees and debate whether French croissants should have elaborate fillings or remain pure, buttery perfection, and if our dogs secretly judge our fashion choices.
When we finished our coffees, we let them loose in a nearby forest. The two of them trotted off like old friends, sniffing trees and leaves with the enthusiasm of intrepid explorers.
“My mission: turn calm coffee breaks into adrenaline-fueled thrill rides. You’re welcome.” — Dougal, Maestro of MayhemSo, Ralphie, I stand corrected. You’re no “carpet”—you’re a steady, calming force and a true companion. Whether influencing a hyperactive terrier or charming a pub full of strangers, your quiet leadership reminds us that the most profound impact often comes from the calmest presence. Thanks for showing me that love, loyalty, and patience don’t need to shout to be heard—they speak volumes when carried with quiet confidence.
“I’m not a carpet, I’m a floofy peace treaty. Step lightly.” — Ralphie, Ambassador of Calm
Watching Dougal settle into Ralphie’s calm rhythm is a quiet revelation. Patience and stillness aren’t just virtues—they’re powerful catalysts for change. Ralphie doesn’t just endure the chaos; he reshapes it, showing me that leadership doesn’t always require action. Sometimes it’s about simply holding steady and letting others find their balance.
Over to You
Have you ever noticed how your own calmness can shift the energy of a room or help someone else settle? What made that moment possible, and what did you take away from it?
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